Pleasure’s all mine!
Characters in Game of Thrones, and porn films make having orgasms seem so easy, like as if it happens right when you penetrate and continues until it remains there, however, in reality, that’s rarely ever the case. For women in real life, having an orgasm requires a perfect storm of factors: concentration, trust, lubrication, some strange faces, maybe a vibrator, and more than a little luck.
Here are some tips to getting a good and healthy orgasm:
Know your anatomy
Research has shown that it’s naturally easier for some women to orgasm than others thanks to factors completely out of your control like the distance between your vagina and your clitoris. You can’t suddenly alter your vaginal-clitoral ratio, but you can try different positions to increase the odds you’ll have an orgasm the next time you have sex. Masturbation is the best way to know what your body wants.
Communicate With Your Partner
Heard this one before? It’s that important, but many women don’t always speak up. If your partner is just a few inches above or below where you really like to be touched or if things are too fast, too slow, or just not doing it for you, say something. If you find it hard to talk about, try saying things like, ‘I love it when you’.
Foreplay is the key
For many women, foreplay is a key part of the quest to have an orgasm.
Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor
Strengthening your pelvic floor can result in better sex. Squeezing the walls of your vagina up and in and holding for a count of five can help you build strength—trying this during sex can even help you orgasm.
Don’t Forget the Clit
The vast majority of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone—and that’s perfectly okay. The female orgasm is more about the clitoris, according to sex researchers, so when you’re wondering how the heck to have an orgasm, don’t forget to stimulate it. Pro favorite ways to do this include penis rings, which can add clitoral stimulation during intercourse, vibrators, or good old fashioned manual stimulation.
Move Your Hips
It might sound obvious, but lying there passively while your partner tries to make you orgasm isn’t exactly the best recipe for success. Something as simple as lifting your pelvis to meet your partner’s hands, mouth, or a toy might be enough.
Ignore the Clock
You should never feel rushed when it comes to getting your orgasm because your body needs what it needs. Feeling like you’re on a schedule can be a problem particularly in hetero relationships.
It’s perfectly OK to get loud. Moaning, talking dirty, whispering, shouting—whatever is your thing. When you are involved in your sexual activities you are more likely to be more connected.
Be present at the moment
Ultimately, there is nothing better you can do than to really get your head in the game. Forget about work, the laundry, what you are going to wear to that party and focus on nothing but the sensations you’re experiencing.” Easier said than done yes, but it is possible.