A few questions you should ask before having sex with him
Unless it’s your hobby to deal with a jerk on a daily basis, it would be safe to presume that you don’t want to be a fool while being woo-ed. Let’s agree with Hollywood for once and agree that while there is no hard and fast rule about when you should have sex with the new guy you meet, nevertheless, it’s always okay to spend at least five minutes of your time making a few observation before coming to the conclusion of sleeping with him. It would be best if you ask a few of these questions.
HAVE YOU BEEN TESTED
Let’s get real. You don’t want to end up with STDs for a few moments of pleasure, do you? The easiest way to make this conversation less awkward is to get tested yourself. The most common reason people don’t bring up STDs with a potential partner is that they haven’t been tested. Get tested yourself, and the conversation will be much easier.
ARE YOU MARRIED?
Even if this is just a casual relationship, you want to know if he’s seeing other women, because—jealousy aside—it’s important to know what kind of situation you might be getting yourself into. Most of us assume if a guy is dating he isn’t betrothed, but, well you may not know the whole story.
DO YOU LIKE YOUR JOB?
What do you do? Do you enjoy it? What’s a typical workday like? Do you like your coworkers? Don’t ask him these questions all at once—you’re not interrogating him, after all. But asking four or five specific questions about one topic is an easy way to spot a liar, according to retired CIA covert operations officer B.D. Foley, author of CIA Street Smarts for Women.
NICE CAR! IS THAT WHAT YOU USE TO PICK UP CHICKS?
Flattery is everything when you’re trying to out arrogance. Figure out if he has an ego by stroking it. A normal, humble guy will take compliments graciously, or even be embarrassed. But someone who is arrogant will use your words as a jumping off point to brag about themselves or their exploits. If he takes every compliment you give him and follows it with a 10-minute speech about how amazing he is, he’s probably not the kind of guy you want to sleep with.
ARE YOU FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX?
The way he talks about past relationships can be revealing. If he’s respectful when talking about an ex-lover, that’s a good sign that he’ll be respectful of you. It can be a little awkward to bluntly ask a guy to reveal his relationship history, so lead in to the question with some (inoffensive) info about your past relationships.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, WHAT ARE MY EXPECTATIONS?
Before you sleep with him, it’s important to ask yourself what you want in both the sexual encounter and the relationship. Strong emotions often come when your expectations are violated, mainly because you tend to romanticize sex before it happens, your expectations are high. That can be problematic if you’re not prepared to deal with the fallout. It doesn’t matter if you’re looking for a one-night stand or a long-term relationship just be honest and realistic about what you expect to happen the morning after.