It has long-term effects
As per a new study, lies spoken to children in their younger days might help them in the short span but it will impact their psyche when they grow up. This was published in the Journal of Experimental Child Psychology – it has revealed that these lies are associated with detrimental effects when the child becomes an adult.
Also, these kids will start lying when they grow up along with several other problems which could impact them.
The researchers asked 379 Singaporean young adults whether their parents lied to them when they were children and how much this affected them now.
The adults who reported to being lied more when they were children also confessed that they have started lying to their parents.
“Parenting by lying can seem to save time especially when the real reasons behind why parents want children to do something is complicated to explain,” said lead author and Assistant Professor Setoh Peipei from Nanyang Technological University, Singapore’s School of Social Sciences.
“When parents tell children that ‘honesty is the best policy’, but display dishonesty by lying, such behaviour can send conflicting messages to their children. Parents’ dishonesty may eventually erode trust and promote dishonesty in children,” the author explained.
The analysis further found out that parenting by lying is detrimental to the growth of a child and that, the kids develop problems which will then lead them to be frowned upon by the society. These traits include aggression, rule-breaking, and intrusive behaviours.
Asst Prof Setoh said, “It is possible that a lie to assert the parents’ power, such as saying ‘If you don’t behave, we will throw you into the ocean to feed the fish’, maybe more related to children’s adjustment difficulties as adults, compared to lies that target children’s compliance, e.g. ‘there is no more candy in the house’.”
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