Here are few tips to remember if you are new at BDSM


Kinky much?

BDSM and kink are practised by all kinds of people with all kinds of backgrounds — and they play a huge role in the fantasy lives for a large proportion of women. There is nothing wrong with being into kinky sex play and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. All it means, in the end, is that you’re into kinky sex play!

Now that we have that out of the way, it’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty. Here are some tips to make your sex more fun.

 

Hair Pulling

Hair pulling is a good way to start getting into kinky play. It’s easy, doesn’t require any toys, and can be as gentle or as rough as you want it to be.

 

Light Spanking

Spanking is definitely a common fantasy and starting lightly is a good idea, with the option of ramping it up as you go, of course. Start with hands and then incorporate toys as you and your partner(s) become more experienced.

 

Aggressive Language

Miette suggests incorporating aggressive language into your play. Name calling, however, should definitely be pre-negotiated, as one slut’s turn on may be another jerk’s major turn off.

 

Tying Up With A Scarf

A lot of people fantasize about bondage and scarves a good place to start because they’re soft and it’s hard to do real damage with them — unlike, you know, rope and handcuffs.

 

Incorporating “Sir” Or “Madam”

In addition to aggressive language, a “sir” or “madam” can do wonder to set the stage. It’s a simple way to establish roles in and keep you both involved in the fantasy.

 

Biting

Biting is a great entry-level way to play. Some people are into them and some people really aren’t, so make sure you know where your partner stands before you start chomping down.

 

Subbing/Topping Role Playing

Jenna suggests that “something as simple as having your arms tied behind your back while performing oral sex” can be a really hot entry-level activity for people who are just getting started.

 

Play With “Pervertables”

Things like wooden spoons, brushes, spatulas and narrow things like canes, thin belts, and rulers with the metal guide on them if you want to make a mark. The best thing about these toys is that no one but other kinksters will recognize them for what they are. They’re like a kinky secret signal!

 

Sensation Play With A Blindfold.

What does that mean, you ask? Basically, you lightly restrain someone (or are restrained yourself, depending on your preference), blindfold them, and then introduce various sensations with various objects. So maybe you run a feather over them or you pinch them or you give them a spank or tease them to edge of orgasm. The idea allows the non-blindfolded person to have control of everything that’s happening and for the blindfolded person to surrender control to them.

Good luck, hope you get lucky…get kinky.

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